Wow, this year has been eventful to say the least. I took a few risks, shed some tears of both happiness and joy, and embarked on a new journey…full time entrepreneurship and Mommie of TWO. This year was truly a year of self-reflection and growth. As I reflect I wanted to share a few things that I took away from 2016 in the hopes it can bless someone else! Enjoy and Happy 2017!
1) Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.
This can be especially hard in today’s digital age. I know I am not the only one who has perused through Instagram only to run across someone who is “doing it”. He or she is fit, they meal prep every week, workout every morning, run a business, has a gorgeous family with 20K followers. I know I’m not the only one who has found their selves 100-some-odd weeks into their photos when you finally say to your self: Dang! I need to step it up! LOL Its great to have aspirations and see other people living our their dreams as motivation, but never should you compare their success to yours. You have NO idea how long it took for them to get where there are. You don’t know how many tears had to be shed, how many "no’s" they heard before they heard "yes", or how many times their checking account has been over drafted. LOL People post their BEST selves, rightfully so; who wants to portray their life in a negative light? So for all my full time entrepreneurs who are just getting started out, don’t get defeated so early on. Work HARD, give it your all and eventually people will look to you as the example. BUT don’t do it to get recognized, do it because you genuinely LOVE what you do and genuinely want to inspire others! Don't go it for the "gram".
2) Be the best version of YOU (and not the version others want you to be).
I’ve struggled with this for years. Hence the reason I’m 28 and on my third (and hopefully) FINAL career move. I did what other people thought I should do. To be honest, I did stuff that sounded good; stuff that looked good on paper but made me feel so empty and incomplete inside. People will love you. People will hate you. People will put up with you. People will talk about you, screen shot your posts and all (LOL) but at the end of the day, you should strive to be the the best version on YOU, you can be.
3) Say NO!
I recently began reading Essentialism by Greg McKeown, even got a chance to sit down and really talk to him. The book focuses on finding and focusing on the things in life that are truly essential to you. It requires this paradigm shift from doing any and everything that appears to be “good”, to doing what is best. It’s easy for us to say no to things that are obviously unhealthy or a waste of time; but what about those things that appear to be good surface level- things that don’t really hurt or help us? As an entrepreneur just starting out, we have this mindset of doing it ALL, excepting any and every project or client for the sake of getting the work and “getting your name out there”. What the book teaches us is that it is ok to say NO to certain things and that instead of focusing and dedicating time, energy and effort into things that are “good”, focus on the things that prove to be the BEST use of our time, energy and effort. This may require stepping down from certain organizations, or limiting our time with certain people. It forces us to really have a strong sense of self-awareness and requires us to set goals and put forth the effort to only invest in things that will ultimately help us reach those goals. Everything else will just have to wait.
BONUS: ***For My Mommies ONLY-Run Away**
Run away…temporarily of course. Leave the kids with their Daddy, your mom, your in-laws, best friends, trusted neighbor, whoever! Just run away! Trust me it is needed for your sanity. You would be amazed at how wonderful sitting in a car wash alone for those 2mins can be so rejuvenating! LOL Get a pedicure, stop at Starbucks…whatever, just take time away for YOU. And don’t feel bad about it! When you come back you will be a happier, nicer, more patient Mommie and EVERYONE will appreciate it! :)